What I’ve discovered about being a “moderate” over 31 years
May 23rd, 2007There are Moderates, there are extremists and there are the “meek moderates.” Before I speak about that, let me tell you a bit about myself and how I got started, turning away from being a doctor to become a political activist and then a journalist.
My mentor was a great man, the late Professor Ibrahim Abu-Lughod. He was a Northwestern University professor who I admired because he was a dedicated moderate who wrote a definitive book called “The Transformation of Palestine.” It wasn’t about Jew-bashing or anti-Semitism, but about factual events that he interpreted. (His wife was Jewish).
Abu-Lughod met me in 1975 after I finished my term of service on the US Air Force towards the end of the Vietnam War. I started publishing an English language newspaper called The Middle Eastern Voice in Chicago (using the $485 I received from the GI Bill that was given to me to pay for my college expenses — I was brilliant and won many scholarships so the GI Bill was just extra cash that I could have squirrled away but decided it was better spent defining a moderate approach to the Palestine-Israel conflict in English. The premise was rejection of violence.
Abu-Lughod was so impressed he asked me to serve as the spokesman for the Arab American Congress for Palestine that year I was their spokesman and eventually even served a stint as President. In 1976 I entered mainstream American journalism (fulltime in 1977), but not before Abu-Lughod asked me to go on national television and debate the late Israeli Foreign Minister Abba Eban.
Eban argued with me about the Benelux System, the claim that “Jordan was Palestine” and other political views. But when it came to me, I looked at the TV camera — I debated Eban but I als invested much time speaking to the TV audience. I told the TV audience that my name was Ray Hanania and Hanania was a Biblical Hebrew word that means “God has been gracious” — Eban acknowledged that on the TV show. I noted that my family may have been Jewish hundreds of years ago and that we always lived in Jerusalem — West Jerusalem, Romema to be exact — until 1948 when the Christians and Muslims were chased out of the city (just as the Jews were chased out of much but not all of East Jerusalem). I noted that Abban Eban’s real name was AUbrey Solomon and he was born in South African, which was an apartheid state at the time. And I asked him, why was it that Aubrey Solomon had a right to live in Jerusalem but my father did not?
He couldn’t answer the question in a way that would have sat well with the American TV audience, but he did offer to make special dispensation to allow me to move back to Jerusalem and live there as an Israeli citizens.
I responded, “What about the rest of the 3 million Ray Hanania’s who are Palestinian?”
What have I learned about being a “moderate?” Well first, let me define what a “moderate” is. A Moderate is someone who applies one principle of fairness and justice to himself and to his “foes.” That principle means that when an Israeli kills a Palestinian, he condemns it. But it also means that when an Israeli kills a Palestinian, he condemns that too. A moderate is someone who defines what is right AND wrong not only about the other side, but about his (or her) onw side, too. That’s not easy to do.
A moderate also believes in compromise when it is clear that conflict has failed both sides. Neither Israel nor the Palestinians have achieved any of their real goals. The conflict is 40 years old and it ain’t getting any younger. I was only 24 when I debated Eban and look at me now? I’ve seen the same old arguments and same old hatred and same old one-way denials of Palestinians ONLY denouncing crimes by Israelis but not crimes by their own people, and Israelis ONLY denouncing crimes by Palestinians but not crimes by their own people, too. I;ve seen the same presidents-for-life who have taken over organizations and held on to the title forever, refusing to do anything except talk. Always reactive, never proactive.
So what have I learned? Well, when things are bad, the extremists have a neasy time. They simply tug at the pain, suffering and emotions of the masses of their people, exploiting the oppression and fears to their own benefit, using them to make their extremist views sound good.
When things are good, the Meek Moderates stand up when it is easy and say great things … but run from sight when things get bad. The Meek Moderates are no different than the extremists. They both produce the same bad end results.
Then there are moderates like me who support peace when there is peace and who support peace when there is no peace. When it is hard to stand up in front of a person who just lost a child, a friend or a neighbor to tragedy and have to tell that person that despite the pain and suffering and the hurt, you still must look forward to peace and compromise. Remember the victims of the conflict, don’t dishonor their memory by turning towards revenge or retaliation, which are driven only by hatred.
I have to stand up when it is hard to stand up like it is today, when both sides deny their own crimes and both sides commit the worst possible crimes against each other, Suicide bombing. Extra-judicial murder. Killing with Qassam rockets or killing with F-16 missiles. In the end, innocent people die. It doesn;t matter how you kill and innocent civilian. It’s not the method of the madness but the end result that is the crime and focus on the tragedy and the debate.
I have to stand up and tell my people that compromise is still the answer even though during the entire 10 years of the Oslo Peace Accords, Israel never once dismantled a major settlement, and in fact kept building new ones as they claimed they wanted peace. I have to stand up and tell Israelis that despite the terrorism of Hamas which used suicide bombings not only to kill Israelis but also kill the pace proces itsewlf, we had to stand firm and fight for peace and not surrender to the angerm the hatred.
Moderation is refusing to give in to the ugly side of being human. It is about embracing the truth (as best as humans can) even when the truth hurts yourself as much as it might the other. Moderation is accepting that compromise is the only way to resolve a dispute between two people who claim the exact same thing. Palestine is not a baby. We do not have to fear cutting it in half. We can cut it in half. The key though is to pursue compromise with reason and respect, and do so not to gain the upperhand and say “I got you”. It is about getting what you want while also insuring that your enemy has enough of what they want to accept the result.
Moderation often means, especially at times like this when we are at each other’s throats, that both sides hate you. Both sides attack you. Both sides call you names — rather than addressing the principle, they often go right for the person. I don’t mind it. I have been called some very nasty things in my life by many people and I have learned through trial and error because I have made mistakes that the best response to hatred is no response at all combined with a commitment to stand by the principle and fight for it hard.
I’m not going to change because the principle of compromise will never change either. And I won’t give up on peace just because some terrorist decides to commit an atrocity against the other sides. Instead of backing away from compromise and peace int he face of terrorism, we should push and fight harder for peace and compromise. One State is no state. Two states is the only answer.
So I say fight for peace. Fight for justice. Jihad for what’s right. Steal the thunder from the fanatics. Don’t surrnder to the hatred.
That is what a moderate person according to all that I have learned over 31 years of trying to find a way out of this hell called the Palestine-Israel conflict.
– Ray Hanania

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I answered you here, it also applies to this recent posting.
And I replied to Tsedek after his post above.
You know what I have also learned. That when people attack, a response is not necessary. When they make claims that are sometimes ridiculous, those claims are better off ignored, also. I learned that at YnetNews.com where I write a column promoting peace and get 50 Talkbacks that basically focus on me claiming I am a terrorist, that I don’t exist because I am a Palestinian, calling my people the worst possible names. The best response to anger is no response. The best response to an insult is no response.
Add that to the list of a good moderate
Ray Hanania
Very good advice Ray. I hope more people here would do that, for the sake of healthy discussions at least.
Let’s see what kind of state the Palestinians can have when Israel feels permanently entitled to invade and kidnap its elected politicians with impunity.
My! I really enjoyed reading, it’s been a while since I read a decent post.
Hi Ray –
I’ve enjoyed reading your articles. They are always thoughtfully written and heartfelt. And like this site, they function as a reminder that our having different perspectives on history and current events does not detract from the fact that we both seek the same goal – peace and prosperity for our people.
As someone who has been serving with the Israeli military since before Oslo and experienced the pendulum’s swing first-hand, I am concerned about the current trend but not altogether worried. Lives will be lost and ruined on both sides. And it will be a terrible waste. And we have seen this all before.
But eventually we will live in peace. We may both have to wait another 31 years, possibly more, hopefully less, but a Palestinian state living alongside an Israeli state is inevitable.
Moderation is incredibly important. And you define it, after all, very much like the Golden Rule.
Your writing about the “Meek Moderates” really resonated with me. As you probably know, the lack of organized Palestinian moderates is a source of frustration for Israelis. In Israel, there is a vocal right and a vocal left. Jewish Israelis protest what you would consider the immoderate actions of its government and military. And it goes far beyond protesters wearing black every friday at a busy intersection in Jerusalem or the many Jewish protesters fighting their own police while protesting the security fence. There are all of the Israeli professors, artists, media, and NGOs that use their position, influence, and resources to undermine and denounce Israeli policy and focus public attention on human rights issues and settler activity.
And I don’t say this in a oh-israel-is-fabulous way. I don’t tend to agree with the politics, actions, or activities of many of these organizations. I mention this because it is a source of real frustration for me, who sees himself as a moderate, that it seems that there are so few on the other side of the conflict.
Where are their counterparts on the Palestinian side? Where are the people researching the detrimental affects of celebrating suicide bombing on the Palestinian culture or the Palestinian organizations monitoring and publicly listing to international organizations the ways in which the PA fails to meet its political and security committments?
As an Israeli, it is very frustrating that the typical image of the Palestinian public ranges from dancing in the streets after Israeli soldiers are killed, the Farfor type propaganda, and the posters of suicide bombers plastered on city streets. Obviously I don’t expect Palestinians to be all that interested or make decisions based on how I or other Israelis feel, but seeing Palestinians protesting the influx of arms into Gaza from Egypt would make me feel as if we’re a bit closer to a peaceful resolution of this conflict and a true rapprochement.
Also, I am a bit surprised by your equating Qassam rockets with F-16’s. And suicide bombings and extra-judicial killing. Qassam’s and suicide bombers intentionally target civilians. F-16’s and the other methods are employed to kill terrorists (or even if you consider them freedom fighters; they still are not civilians.). Sometimes civilians are killed as a result. Sometimes civilians are killed in the cross fire. I’m not suggesting that this is a good thing. It is unfortunate and tragic for those involved. But it is still very different than shooting off Qassam’s in the hope that you hit a home or a school house. Or attempting to enter a bus full of school children.
And I agree that compromise is the only way to end this conflict. And we’ll get there.
You ended your post saying that we have to try to find a way out of this “hell called the Palestine-Israel conflict.” And we do. But as difficult as things are for the people of Sederot and how difficult it was for the people living in Northern Israel last summer and no matter how frustrated and concerned the people of Israel are about the coming summer and the coming years, it really is not hell in Israel. The country continues to thrive economically, politically, and culturally.
The extremists, unfortunately, do not understand that their strategy has failed miserably. They may make individual Israelis suffer, but the country as a whole moves on without missing a beat. Despite everything that happened last year, the Israeli economy grew at a fast pace. While at the same time, the lives of Palestinians in the West Bank and Gaza become more chaotic. And the extremists will not recognize that they are, to a great extent, the catalyst for the worsening situation in Gaza and the West Bank — and that they will never be the solution — until Palestinian moderates stand up and loudly state that they want their leaders to change direction.
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